Chastity is a Christian virtue concerned with sexual purity. To be chaste is to obey the Law of Chastity. The Law of Chastity says that we restrict any form of sexual relations to man and wife in marriage. The Law of Chastity is a law that is concerned with protecting the integrity of families. It stems from one of he first commandments that God ever gave Adam and Eve. God brought Adam and Eve together in marriage and commanded them to multiply and replenish the earth (Genesis 1:28). The Law of Chastity stipulates the bounds within which this commandment is to be fulfilled.
According to President Boyd K. Packer, Sex, Marriage and Family are the keys of the Plan of Happiness: “To be entrusted with the power to create life carries with it the greatest of joys and dangerous temptations. The gift of mortal life and the capacity to kindle other lives is a supernal blessing. Through the righteous exercise of this power, as in nothing else, we may come close to our Father in Heaven and experience a fulness of joy. This power is not an incidental part of the plan of happiness. It is the key—the very key.” (Boyd K. Packer‐ Cleanse the Inner Vessel)
The law of Chastity includes at least 7 components, each of which will now be examined in further detail.
1. Purity of Thought
Those who are chaste do not lust after anyone but their spouse in any way. They avoid pornography or even impure thoughts of others. Jesus taught us that being Chaste isn’t just about outward behavior but also about controlling our thoughts and desires. In Matt 5: 27-28 Jesus taught: “Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” (Matt 5: 27-28)
This teaching of Jesus tells us to avoid lust of any kind, even if it is just in our thoughts. This would clearly apply to pornography as well. A BYU FAQ defines pornography in this way:
“Pornography refers to explicit depictions of sexual activity in written or pictorial form in an exploitive style. The purpose of these presentations is erotic arousal for commercial gain…..It is, in a sense, sex miseducation marketed for financial gain in a variety of formats, including books, magazines, motion pictures, television, videotapes, and even telephone. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter‐day Saints condemns all forms of pornography.” (http://ldsfaq.byu.edu/viewEM.aspx?number=210)
While we are to avoid pornography we are also to take a more proactive stance towards Chastity and cultivate a virtuous mind. In D&C 121:45 the Lord commands the Saints: “ Let thy bowels also be full of charity towards all men, and to the household of faith, and let virtue garnish thy thoughts unceasingly; then shall thy confidence wax strong in the presence of God; and the doctrine of the priesthood shall distill upon thy soul as the dews from heaven.” (D&C 121:45)
2. No Fornication.
Along with cultivating virtuous thoughts and avoiding all forms of lust comes the command not to fornicate or have sex outside of Marriage. Paul wrote to the Corinthians in 1 Cor 6: 13-20 that their bodies were temples for the Holy Spirit that needed to be kept pure. The text reads:
“Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body….Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.
Paul similarly taught the Ephesians that those that fornicate, covet and engage in idolatry have no place in the Kingdom of God: “For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. Let no man deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience.” (Eph. 5: 5-6)
Again, Paul teaches the importance of Marriage and avoiding fornication and adultery to the Hebrews in chapter 13:4 which reads: “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” (Hebrews 13:4)
It was ancient Israelite law that whoever committed fornication needed to get married. In Exodus 22:16 the law states: “And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife.” (Exodus 22:16)
This commandment to avoid fornication applies to all sexual behaviors and not just intercourse. The “For the Strength of Youth” pamphlet states: “Before marriage, do not do anything to arouse the powerful emotions that must be expressed only in marriage. Do not participate in passionate kissing, lie on top of another person, or touch the private, sacred parts of another person’s body, with or without clothing. Do not allow anyone to do that with you. Do not arouse those emotions in your own body.” (For the Strength of Youth [pamphlet, 2001], 27)
Joseph of Egypt gives us an example of how we should respond when offered a chance to break the law of Chastity. Joseph fled and said: “How then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?” (Gen 39: 9)
3. Sex confined to Husband and Wife in Marriage.
Those who are chaste limit sexual relations to husband and wife in marriage and avoid any practices that deviate from the Lord’s standard. Any other kind of sexual practices are clearly forbidden in the strongest of terms in the scriptures.
First, the command not to commit adultery, or to have sex with a married person is condemned in the strongest terms. This form of chastity is so important it was made the seventh commandment which in Exodus 20:14 reads: “Thou shalt not commit adultery.”
Same-sex relations are also forbidden in the scriptures. Paul wrote to the Romans of the judgments that came upon those who practiced same-sex relations in his time when he wrote: “For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.” (Romans 1: 26-27)
Similarly, in Lev 18: 22 the Lord clearly taught the ancient Israelites: “Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.” (Lev 18:22; Gen 18-19)
Along with same-sex relations, transgender practices were also considered an abomination to God. In Deut 22:5 we read: “The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the Lord thy God.” (Deut 22:5)
All other sexual perversions such as bestiality and incest are also forbidden. In ancient Israelite law, incest was forbidden for immediate families, including half-siblings and in-laws. (Lev 18: 1-20) Sex with animals was also forbidden: “Neither shalt thou lie with any beast to defile thyself therewith: neither shall any woman stand before a beast to lie down thereto: it is confusion.” (Lev 18:23) The consequences of breaking this law was death: “Whosoever lieth with a beast shall surely be put to death.” (Exodus 22:19)
In Ancient Israelite law, rape was also condemned and punishable by death. (Deut 22)
Fourth, another important part of being chaste is dressing modestly so as not to stimulate sexual arousal in others. Paul wrote to Timothy about the importance of modesty in 1 Tim 2: 9-10 which reads: “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.” (1 Tim 2: 9-10)
Those who are chaste do not divorce their spouse for reasons other than abuse, abandonment or adultery. They also do not put away their spouse for someone better. In Matt 19: 3-12 Jesus teaches about the rare circumstances that allow for divorce. The text reads:
3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
10 His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.
11 But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.
12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother’s womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it. (Matt 18: 15-17)
In this sermon we learn the following 5 principles:
1. God never intends a marriage to end in divorce. Marriage is permanent in Gods eyes, and what God has joined together no man should attempt to sunder.
2. The Law of Moses allowed divorce in some situations because of how unrighteous the people had become.However, Jesus points out that “from the beginning” or in the higher law divorce is not permitted.
3. Divorce is only permitted when one partner has an affair.
4. Those that divorce and then remarry are both committing adultery.
5. Not everyone will get married but those that do should abide these teachings.
A particular heinous kind of divorce that is condemned in the scriptures is called “putting away one’ spouse” which essentially means divorcing because you find someone else younger, richer or more attractive. In Proverbs we are taught that Men should be satisfied with the wife of their youth: “Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.” (Proverbs 5: 18-19)
In the book of Malachi, The Lord condemns men who put away their older wives for younger ones and condemns priesthood holders who do not stop this practice. He sees the tears of the women who have been wronged. In Malachi 2: 13-17 we learn of this common practice at the time:
“And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the Lord with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand. Yet ye say, wherefore? Because the Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the Lord of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit that ye deal not treacherously. Ye have wearied the Lord with your words. Yet ye say, wherein have we wearied him? When ye say, every one that doeth evil is good in the sight of the Lord, and he delighteth in them; or, where is the God of judgment?” (Malachi 2: 13-17)
Commenting on this practice, the Institute study guide states:
“One of the gross sins among the ancient people of the Lord was unfaithfulness in marriage vows. Some of the Hebrew men, tiring of their wives and the mothers of their children, were seeking the companionship of younger women. The wives would come to the temple and make an appeal to God at the altar. In this unfaithfulness to marriage vows, the Lord declared, the men had dealt treacherously (see vv. 13–14). The Lord was angry with these men because they did not remain true to their wives, but He also expressed anger toward the priests for knowing the problem and not executing justice. He told the men to scrutinize their innermost feelings toward the women whom they had loved in their youth, who had borne their children, and who had loved and served them, and not to put away their wives (v. 15). For “the Lord . . . hateth putting away” (v. 16).” (Pg. 352 Institute study guide, 1 Kings-Malachi)
This law was so important to the integrity of the church that the Lord revealed in modern revelation that those who commit adultery are to be cast out. In D&C 42: 75-76 the Lord commands: “But if ye shall find that any persons have left their companions for the sake of adultery, and they themselves are the offenders, and their companions are living, they shall be cast out from among you. And again, I say unto you, that ye shall be watchful and careful, with all inquiry, that ye receive none such among you if they are married.” (D&C 42:75-76)
6. Those who are chaste do not take advantage of others and tempt or exploit them to break the law of Chastity.
Sixth, those who are chaste do not take advantage of others and tempt or exploit them to break the law of Chastity. In the Old Testament, Habakkuk condemned those would plot to make others vulnerable to take sexual advantage of them: “Woe unto him that giveth his neighbour drink, that puttest thy bottle to him, and makest him drunken also, that thou mayest look on their nakedness!” (Habakkuk 2:15)
7. Those who are chaste do not masturbate.
And seventh, those who are chaste do not masturbate. President Spencer W. Kimball summarized the doctrine of the church in this way: “Masturbation, a rather common indiscretion, is not approved of the Lord nor of his church, regardless of what may have been said by others whose “norms” are lower. Latter‐day Saints are urged to avoid this practice. Anyone fettered by this weakness should abandon the habit before he goes on a mission or receives the holy priesthood or goes in the temple for his blessings.” (Spencer W. Kimball)
Instead of engaging in this practice, President Packer taught that the body’s nocturnal emissions are the way that the Lord designed the body to deal sexual urges:
“As you move closer to manhood, this little factory will sometimes produce an oversupply of this substance. The Lord has provided a way for that to be released. It will happen without any help or without any resistance from you. Perhaps, one night you will have a dream. In the course of it the release valve that controls the factory will open and release all that is excess. The factory and automatic release work on their own schedule. The Lord intended it to be that way. It is to regulate itself. This will not happen very often. You may go a longer period of time, and there will be no need for this to occur. When it does, you should not feel guilty. It is the nature of young manhood and is part of becoming a man.” (Boyd K. Packer)
Fruits of Chastity vs. Lust (Blessings and Consequences)
The Law of Chastity is the single most important law next only to not murdering others. Alma taught this doctrine to his son when he said: “Know ye not, my son, that these things are an abomination in the sight of the Lord; yea, most abominable above all sins save it be the shedding of innocent blood or denying the Holy Ghost?” (Alma 38:5)
Elder Jeffrey R. Holland explains why the law of Chastity is so important:
“Setting aside sins against the Holy Ghost for a moment as a special category unto themselves, it is LDS doctrine that sexual transgression is second only to murder in the Lord’s list of life’s most serious sins. By assigning such rank to a physical appetite so conspicuously evident in all of us, what is God trying to tell us about its place in his plan for all men and women in mortality? I submit to you he is doing precisely that‐‐commenting about the very plan of life itself. Clearly God’s greatest concerns regarding mortality are how one gets into this world and how one gets out of it. These two most important issues in our very personal and carefully supervised progress are the two issues that he as our Creator and Father and Guide wishes most to reserve to himself. These are the two matters that he has repeatedly told us he wants us never to take illegally, illicitly, unfaithfully, without sanction.” ‐‐‐Jeffrey R. Holland
Elder Holland continues:
“Second, may I suggest that human intimacy, that sacred, physical union ordained of God for a married couple, deals with a symbol that demands special sanctity. Such an act of love between a man and a woman is‐‐or certainly was ordained to be‐‐a symbol of total union: union of their hearts, their hopes, their lives, their love, their family, their future, their everything. But such a total, virtually unbreakable union, such an unyielding commitment between a man and a woman, can only come with the proximity and permanence afforded in a marriage covenant, with the union of all that they possess. It is in that act of ultimate physical intimacy we most nearly fulfill the commandment of the Lord given to Adam and Eve, living symbols for all married couples, when he invited them to cleave unto one another only, and thus become “one flesh” (Genesis 2:24).
“To give illicitly that which is not yours to give (remember‐‐”you are not your own”) and to give only part of that which cannot be followed with the gift of your whole heart and your whole life and your whole self is its own form of emotional Russian roulette. If you persist in sharing part without the whole, in pursuing satisfaction devoid of symbolism, in giving parts and pieces and inflamed fragments only, you run the terrible risk of such spiritual, psychic damage that you may undermine both your physical intimacy and your wholehearted devotion to a truer, later love.” (Jeffrey R. Holland)
And finally, in the same talk, Elder Holland warns against what he calls “sexual fragmentation” in the following way:
“Fragmentation enables its users to counterfeit intimacy. . . . If we relate to each other in fragments, at best we miss full relationships. At worst, we manipulate and exploit others for our gratification. Sexual fragmentation can be particularly harmful because it gives powerful physiological rewards which, though illusory, can temporarily persuade us to overlook the serious deficits in the overall relationship. Two people may marry for physical gratification and then discover that the illusion of union collapses under the weight of intellectual, social, and spiritual incompatibilities. . . .Sexual fragmentation is particularly harmful because it is particularly deceptive. The intense human intimacy that should be enjoyed in and symbolized by sexual union is counterfeited by sensual episodes which suggest‐‐but cannot deliver‐‐acceptance, understanding, and love. Such encounters mistake the end for the means as lonely, desperate people seek a common denominator which will permit the easiest, quickest gratification.” [Victor L. Brown, Jr., Human Intimacy: Illusion and Reality]
Remember that being “in love” is not an acceptable reason for breaking the Law of Chastity. Love is about sacrificing for another’s well-being while lust is about physical gratifaction. Elder Richard G. Scott taught: “Later, as you prepare for marriage, remember that true love elevates, protects, respects, and enriches another. It motivates you to make sacrifices for the girl you love. Satan would promote counterfeit love, which is really lust. That is driven by hunger to satisfy personal appetite. Protect the one you love by controlling your emotions to the limits set by the Lord.” (Richard G. Scott-Making the Right Choices)
The scriptures clearly outline the consequences for breaking the law of Chastity in very plain language.
1. Spiritual and Physical Death
The following scriptures teach us that those who break the law of Chastity will eventually suffer both physical and spiritual death:
- Immoral women seem enticing but the end of fornication is death and hell: “For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil: But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell…Remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house.” (Proverbs 5: 3-8) “He goeth after her straightway, as an ox goeth to the slaughter, or as a fool to the correction of the stocks…For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her. Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death.” (Proverbs 7: 22-27)
2. Those who commit adultery with another man’s wife have defiled themselves: “Moreover thou shalt not lie carnally with thy neighbour’s wife, to defile thyself with her.” (Leviticus 18:20)
3. Those who commit adultery are playing with fire and will not be innocent before God: “Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned? So he that goeth in to his neighbour’s wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent…But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.” (Proverbs 6: 27-33)
4. Curse of Destruction: “For behold, I, the Lord, have seen the sorrow, and heard the mourning of the daughters of my people in the land. . . . And I will not suffer, saith the Lord of Hosts, that the cries of the fair daughters of this people . . . shall come up unto me against the men of my people, saith the Lord of Hosts. For they shall not lead away captive the daughters of my people because of their tenderness, save I shall visit them with a sore curse, even unto destruction.” ( Jacob 2:31‐33)
5. The Second Coming: In the initial day of judgment, at the second coming of our Lord Jesus Christ, Christ “will be a swift witness . . . against the adulterers,” and they shall be burned as stubble. (Mal. 3:5; 4:1.)
6. Committing adultery in the new and everlasting covenant leads to destruction: “And as ye have asked concerning adultery, verily, verily, I say unto you, if a man receiveth a wife in the new and everlasting covenant, and if she be with another man, and I have not appointed unto her by the holy anointing, she hath committed adultery and shall be destroyed. If she be not in the new and everlasting covenant, and she be with another man, she has committed adultery.” (D&C 132: 41-42)
Prior to spiritual and physical death, those who break the law of Chastity are told that they will be cast out of the community of Saints. In Ancient Israel the law stated that: “There shall be no whore of the daughters of Israel, nor a sodomite of the sons of Israel.” (Deut 23:17)
In modern revelation the Lord revealed to the Saints: “And he that looketh upon a woman to lust after her shall deny the faith, and shall not have the Spirit; and if he repents not he shall be cast out.” (D&C 42:23)
However, the lord gives some hope to those who have committed adultery in a later scriptures which reads: “Thou shalt not commit adultery; and he that committeth adultery and repenteth not, he shall be cast out. But he that has committed adultery and repents with all his heart, and forsaketh it, and doeth it no more, thou shalt forgive.” (D&C 42: 24-25)
3. Death of Conscience.
Proverbs compares a beautiful woman without virtue to a pig with a golden ring: “As a jewel of gold in a swine’s snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion.” (Proverbs 11:22) Ultimately, if one breaks the law of Chastity enough then one’s conscience dies and one loses the ability to tell right from wrong. In Proverbs 30:20 this consequence is stated in the following way: “Such is the way of an adulterous woman; she eateth, and wipeth her mouth, and saith, I have done no wickedness.” (Proverbs 30:20)
In contrast to adulterous women, Proverbs places a high value on virtuous women: “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies…Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.” (Proverbs 31: 10, 30)
4. Other Ills
Along with physical and spiritual death, excommunication and the death of conscience, breaking the law of chastity will also lead to a host of other ills that include:
- Loss of the Spirit, depression, guilt, loneliness: “Contents highly addictive. Extremely corrosive‐to‐the‐soul materials enclosed. Be prepared to have your mind twisted, your views of love ravaged, your spirit shrunk. Be aware that the Spirit of the Lord will not be with you during or after viewing. Be prepared that after an initial rush, you will experience feelings of depression, loneliness, despair, and guilt. Nevertheless, with repeated exposures over time, you can numb those feelings and enter into an almost total amnesia about who you really are and about truth itself.” ‐‐‐On Porn Wendy L. Watson, 1999 Women’s Conference, speech entitled “Personal Purity and Intimacy”
3. Addiction: “Pornography is as addictive as cocaine or any illegal drug. (James E. Faust‐The Enemy Within) One reason that pornography is so addicting is because of the body’s physiological responses to viewing the sexually arousing stimuli. The adrenal hormone epinephrine is released, which locks memories into the brain, and a chemical called opioids are released by these nerve endings in response to pleasure which produces a desire to repeat the behaviour. This biological drive can cause a dependence or addiction and reinforces the message that comes along with pornography which is anti‐social attitudes about women and relationships.” (Watson, B. & Welch, S.R. (2000). Just Harmless Fun? Understanding the Impact of Pornography.)
3. Destruction and Impairment of Family Relationships: “Pornography impairs one’s ability to enjoy a normal emotional, romantic, and spiritual relationship with a person of the opposite sex.” (Dallin H. Oaks‐ Pornography) One survey of porn addicts reports that 40% lost their spouse, 70% had severe marital problems, 68% were exposed to HIV and other STD’s, 27% lost their career and 58% reported legal consequences as a result of this destructive behaviour. (El Hage, A. M. (2004) Sexual Degradation: How Pornography Destroys the Family.)
4. Forfeit the Priesthood: Those who seek out and use pornography forfeit the power of their priesthood. (Dallin H. OaksPornography)
5. Increases of rape and Sexual Crime: “The existence of sexually oriented businesses that specialize in the distribution of pornography have been shown to be related to an increase in overall criminal activity. In Oklahoma City, where 150 out of 163 sexually oriented businesses were shut down, rapes declined by 27% while rising 19% in the rest of the state where sex businesses were not shut down. Another report, by a Michigan State police officer, claimed that of 38,000 cases of sexual assault in Michigan over a 20 year period, 41% involved the use of pornography just prior to the criminal act. Another study involved examining 2 states in Australia: Queensland, which kept its conservative policies on pornography and South Australia which liberalized pornography laws. Over a 13 year period, the number of rapes remained at a low level in Queensland and South Australia experienced a 6 fold increase in the amount of rapes.” (Watson, B. & Welch, S.R. (2000). Just Harmless Fun? Understanding the Impact of Pornography.)
6. Pornography teaches falsehoods about sex: “Pornography is never more than physical and neglects to include important aspects of human sexuality such as communication, expressions of affection and emotion and the consequences of sexual activity are never displayed. For example, one would not see a resulting teenage pregnancy and the child’s mother dropping out of school as a result of sexual experience. One would also not see someone getting human papilloma virus that leads to infertility or cervical cancer or someone catching AIDS.” (Watson & Welch, 2000).
The opposite of Chastity would be the following:
- Immorality: immoral quality, character, or conduct; wickedness; evilness.
- Lasciviousness: inclined to lustfulness.
- Indecency: The state or quality of being unseemly or immodest.
- Degeneracy: degenerate behavior, esp. behavior considered sexually deviant.
- Lewd: inclined to, characterized by, or inciting to lust or lechery; lascivious.
- Debauchery: excessive indulgence in sensual pleasures; intemperance.
- Situation: When you are tempted to think lustful thoughts about anyone other than your spouse.
- Chaste Response: You dismiss it.
- Lustful Response: You indulge it.
- Situation: When you are tempted to look at pornography or masturbate.
- Chaste Response: You dismiss it.
- Lustful Response: You indulge it.
- Situation: When you are tempted to have sex with anyone you aren’t married to.
- Chaste Response: You abstain.
- Lustful Response: You commit adultery.
- Situation: When you are tempted to engage in any sexual act that deviates from the Lord’s standard.
- Chaste Response: You dismiss it.
- Lustful Response: You indulge it.